So one of the struggles I’ve had so far during this cleanse is one that I’m sure everybody goes through in some way or another when embarking on a journey to get healthier – social pressure not to change. For me this comes out in two main areas: lunch with coworkers and time at the lake. I can already tell, at the halfway point of the 10 day cleanse, that this is a way I need to continue to eat. If that is going to remain true, I need to figure out a way to navigate potential social pit-falls to healthy eating.
Lunch with Coworkers
I typically eat out with coworkers 2-4 times a week. We have three places we typically like to go – a Greek place, a Mexican restaurant, and a sandwich shop. My coworkers definitely don’t care what I actually order, but it is SO hard to make good decisions while eating out. No matter how good for me it is, I feel like a chump ordering a salad, and paying more for it, than eating the nachos I know I love and that I am used to eating. One solution is definitely to brown-bag my lunch, but then I miss out on bonding with my coworkers. Plus, it’s nice to step away from the office in the middle of the day for a break.
My Solution
This is what has been working for me. Some of you may be able to make the healthy choice at lunch. And that is awesome. And some people may be happy bringing their lunch. Also awesome. I’ve found that for me the best thing is to bring a lunch to work that I can eat at my desk before going with my coworkers out to lunch. If I absolutely can’t resist eating while I’m there, at least I’ll only get a small plate item to pick at instead of a full unhealthy meal.
Time at the Lake
My boyfriend’s family has a lake house and that is my boyfriend’s happy place. He loves to be there on the weekends, and I frequently accompany him. We are there nearly every other weekend in the summer, and at least once a month the rest of the year. Lake culture for his family generally involves doughnuts for breakfast, BBQ sandwiches for lunch, an afternoon of beer drinking, and a late dinner of some sort of grilled meat with Ready Rice or Mac&Cheese and canned green beans. There is also yummy cheesy-carby snack food during the day.
When I first started dating my boyfriend, I ate (and drank) along with everyone else. Over the course of the year we’ve been dating, I’ve slowly cut out the drinking and doughnut breakfasts, but I can’t resist those snacks and dinners! They are yummy! Also, I feel like I am a guest in his family’s home and I feel so grateful that they let me hang around so often and that they are willing to feed me.
During this cleanse, though, it was hard to navigate those snacks and dinners. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not eating what is being offered and provided to me. At the same time, I spend so much time there that it would be impossible for me to “cheat” every time I am there and still achieve my health goals.
My Solution
This is something I’m still having to figure out. Obviously one solution is to get involved in the food preparation and provide some healthy options. I feel like that is a little tricky to do without stepping on any toes. I definitely think another solution is to recognize that my way of eating now is very different and just because I’ve changed my eating habits doesn’t mean I am judging anyone else’s eating habits. It is ok to have some of those yummy snacks and dinners, as long as I am just having a taste here and there instead of cleaning my plate.
Does anyone have any additional solutions for the above situation? I’d love to hear suggestions!